“A Mother Confused” writes…
Jenny,

I am a 19 year old mother of two boys. My ex and I are not together. We actually kind of still despise each other because of our past-he cheated on me. Our son’s 3rd birthday is coming up so I told him we should have a party and his girlfriend would be invited (the one he cheated on me with and then cheated on her with me). They have a daughter together and that’s my son’s sister, but he doesn’t want to have the party because the kids are two weeks apart and he doesn’t want his girlfriend to know he cheated. But if she was to come to the party, it’s not like there’s going to be a confrontation. What do you think I should do?

“A Mother Confused”

My Response…
Dear Mother Confused,

I think you should have a nice kids’ birthday party for your son and invite all his friends. Have balloons and cake and make it a fun day for your 3-year old. Leave the adults out of it. If you “despise” your ex, why in the world would you want to have the party with him? And his girlfriend? I don’t get it. Your son is three and the girlfriend doesn’t know what’s up? I would stay away from her and her daughter and not think of the kids as brother and sister. But try to work out your differences with your ex so that your 3-year old has his dad in his life. Hopefully, your ex will grow up and become a better role model for his kids.
Jenny