Lilly writes…
Dear Jenny,

I like this guy I work with and he likes me too. But he has always said he would never date anyone he works with. We have gone out to groups and socially but I want to be more than just friends. I don’t think our personal lives would interfere with work, but he says he doesn’t want to cause trouble. I know he likes me because he acts like it at work but I don’t see why he won’t date me. I really like him but I don’t think I should have to quit my job in order to pursue a relationship with him. What do you think?

My response…
Dear Lilly,
It sounds to me like you are seeing more in this relationship than really exists. Think about it. If a guy you worked with came on to you and you weren’t interested, all you’d have to say is, “I don’t think it’s a good idea to get involved with a co-worker.” An easy out. No hurt feelings. End of story. I think that’s what he’s doing. If he really wanted you, he would find a way to be with you. So don’t quit your job. And look for a guy who wants you bad. That would be good.
Jenny